I just convinced a friend to buy it and play with me...We noticed this issue, and it completely kills the fun of multiplayer. How can you coordinate when the game is so different?
Best example so far:
On my game:
Friend is attacking a asteroid with 1 capital ship and losing badly, this is owned by Purple computer. Ship explodes due to combat.
On friends game:
Friend is attacking SAME asteroid with a fleet, wins handily, scrapes YELLOW off the rock.
Its super easy to notice the discrepancies when you play right next to each other.