Incorporeal I'm going to be real honest with you...playing on ICO is very hard if you are new....
For one, most nearly all ICO games are on faster game speed...it is not a simple matter of getting used to the game on normal speed and then working your way up to faster game speeds...the actual strategy of the game (what works, what doesn't, and what is most effective) is highly dependent on game speed...
To give an example, you would never rush trade on slow, but it is not uncommon for very good TEC players to have trade up before they colonize their 2nd planet on faster...this is due to the fact that different elements of the game are modified by different ratios when the game speed is changed...
Strategy on faster is completely different than strategy on normal speed...if you want to enjoy games on ICO, you need to be used to the faster game speed...it is not enough to simply be well experienced with the game at normal speed...
Additionally, ICO games generally involve intensive rushing...furthermore, players often have to adopt roles (economy player or frontliner) in order to best assist their team...these are simply things you will not have to deal with when playing against the AI no matter what difficulty level you play...
In general, if you cannot contest with all unfair AI's in a free for all match (pirates off), then you are going to be at the very bottom of skill level on ICO...
Nevertheless, don't give up hope...I encourage you to try ICO games a couple of times, you may learn very quickly and come to enjoy them a lot...but, I would equally encourage you to only play ICO once you are well prepared...
I would argue that a more fun alternative to ICO is to play LAN games with friends you know...some advantages of this is that you don't have to use faster game speed and you can use mods if you so wish...