it appears i have different mesh files than my friend so i basicly removed Sins+ expansion pack which was a pain to remove due Impulse removed it from Impulse but not my harddrive so had to uninstall it the hard way so did all that reinstalled and patched and expansion and same error
now the other error is my IP isnt visable that could be because of my router
ive played sins since it came out and have never had problems like this before