Sam, one of us in here knows exactly what you're going through. Do you know who that person is?........ME. See, I do know exactly what you are going through. I go through pretty much the same things. Except for the part where you said that you mom calls you names. I've never heard my mom call my names or anything, so I don't know if that has been done. Trust me, I get yelled at too! A lot for that matter. I get yelled at for all of her assumptions that she makes, and which 90% of them aren't even true, but yet I still get yelled at. Yeah, I still do think you're being irrational in this case. Actually, I think maybe you both are.(you and your mom) You shouldn't call her names and she shouldn't call you names. I do know your situation, I've been there done that. But you just have to find ways around them. I know it's hard not to call your mom those bad and aweful names, but you have to try. And when you fight back, you don't have to use bad names or things. That just puts you in another situation ontop of the one you're already in. Just because I've never said really anything about things that go on between me and my mom, doesn't mean they don't happen.
I don't know why, but mostly I keep these things to myself. I try not to worry a whole lot. And I don't feel like having other people having to worry about me all the time. I've been in depression many times, this year and last year. So I know what it's like. I used to and still do go around hitting and punching things to relieve my anger, since I have a very high pain tollerence. Last year when me and Alex were going out it was so hard to keep it from my mom. I know it was wrong, but if she did find out I'd be in trouble. Well eventually she did find out somehow. I don't know how, but I have my assumptions on who might have said something to her. But that's besides the point. Anyways.....When my mom did find out. Oh man! Did she ever blow up. I got yelled at! I mean YELLED at A LOT! For one, she would've rather me have told her that I at least liked him. But I have learned to live with what my mom throws at me.
So when Brandon says it's more like a test rather than punishment, I think he's right. I think I've been put through a test, and now that I've learned to get along with it, my mom trusts me with guys more. Now I really don't think she cares that I like or have a boyfriend, but I just can't go on dates with them until I'm 16, or having them give me rides to places, unless they are of short distance. So I'm sure if you try to get along with the yelling, and other stuff, you'll do fine.
Ok, if this sounded mean, it wasn't meant to be that way at all. I'm just trying to help. I don't know if it did, but hey....you gotta give me credit for atleast trying to help. Chin up Sam! And yes, we are all family here. We're all here to help support each other, even Brandon. lol.
~carebear~
