Why be bitter? Is someone taking something away from you that you are entitled to? If so, why are you more entitled?
Isn't this the case of someone deciding to make an offer of a gift? Isn't that his right? Who are you to say who deserves the gift and who doesn't?
Is it taking food, clothing, medicine or money away from you or your family?
Suppose this scenario: Same decision, same prize. Unannounced...would you feel deprived?
Suppose it were announced after the fact...xyz won this. Would you feel deprived then?
Now suppose you won. Would you feel that you were depriving someone else? Would someone else be more qualified than you?
Would you return it and say give it to xyz, he/she is more deserving than me?