Myrrander, your grief for the victims of 9/11 and the recent London bombings hasn't changed your mind about how to solve the problem. Why do you expect--demand, even--that our grief over soldiers and their families change our mind aobut how to solve the problem?
You seem to think that because you are not willing to make a sacrifice, that those who are willing do not actually care about the sacrifice being made.
What if Bush went on national television and wept--openly, honestly, and at length--for all the lives that have been lost because of his decisions as commander in chief. What if, in tears, he apologized publicly for each and every soldier's death, and for all the collateral deaths as well? What if he spoke with heartfelt sorrow and more tears, about the "ripple effect" and the impact on American society. What if, in short, he displayed in public the most sincere and complete remorse a human is capable of expressing?
And what if, when he was done, he wiped the tears from his face, blew his nose, looked straight into the camera with those red-rimmed eyes, and said "But let me be clear about this: as much as I truly regret the sacrifices that must be made, and as much as I weep for all that we have lost and will lose in this battle, I believe it is the right battle. I believe that the victory is worth the sacrifice, and I believe that victory is possible. If I had it all to do over again, I would do the same."
Would that answer your objections? Would it make any difference to you?