So I recently started playing Sins: Rebellion. Loving it so far minus one aspect- my personal relation towards others. I have attempted to create a cease fire with someone my empire hates. After nearly 40 minutes of envoy runs and giving credits, I managed to get their relation with me to greater than 4.50. It's up to 5.something now. The problem is that I, apparently, still hate them! -3.6 or worse! So here I am, desperately desiring a cease fire, and yet being told I actually don't want that at all.

So far my attempts to increase it have been using the offer mission option. Any increases I make, however, are thwarted by them blowing up my envoys. But if I don't have my envoys near their planets, their liking of me drops extremely rapidly. All together- I'm defeating myself here. I have managed to keep their relation towards me at > 5.0, but have not managed to get my relation towards them to > -3.6. With it like this, I can't seem to get a peace treaty going.

Any tips for an obvious newb?