...Don't end up like Xer07...
By far, I am not like that.
Anyways, I got off track with that, I'm not sure what your problem is exactly, for I have only somewhat vague indicators that you are fearing for a specific relationship. Clarify?
My problem is that I have a very close friend, who happens to be a girl. I had/have romantic inclinations towards her- I told her, she said "that's so sweet, but I only see you as a friend." We both want(ed?) to remain friends. Side note- that was the scariest thing I've ever done in my life.
Despite the fact that I have literally jumped off of a moving golf cart (I actually thought that that was pretty awesome rather than scary).
Anyways, with a single exception, every time I see her, and say 'hi' in passing, I come away from the encounter feeling much better. Except this most recent time I saw her. I come away in a complete and total emotional pit.
What I am afraid of right now is that my friendship with her is slipping away. And I'm scared out of my mind at the possibility that it will happen. I don't make very many friends, or even very easily to begin with. To make matters worse, I consider her my closest friend- though I haven't had the opportunity to tell her so.
Back to another point that I've mentioned, that you have told her things about your feelings for her. Maybe she wasn't prepared? Maybe she has problems of her own?
She only saw me as a friend- I'd already resolved that if she did not have the same inclinations that I did, then I wanted (very much) to remain friends, a sentiment that she also seemed to have.
Social nuances have an extremely wide range of possible reactions, and the most glaringly obvious problem is that you don't have the time to talk to her...
Yes, my interaction with her has been extremely limited time-wise. Generally I'd see her once a week, though over the summer that went up to around twice/week, before culminating in a week-long 'summer camp' that we both attended. I was able to spend quite a lot of time with her then- though it subsequently dropped off to a "once/week", and then "once/2 weeks" thing, on account of the fact that I work the very same day that I almost invariably used to see her.
Any relationship, friend, close friend, enemy, lover, requires time to cultivate all feelings that should be expressed on the common social medium... (I'm not a romantic, I'm telling you from experience.) Meaning that you need to spend consistent time with her, doing things that interest both of you.
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I really don't have a response to this off-hand, I'll have to think more in-depth on it.
If you have nothing in common, you are doomed. In the most dramatic fashion possible.
By far, that isn't the problem.