wow....I'm lucky if I get chocolates and flowers!!!
My husband is so busy at Valentine's (also our anniversary) and he hates to shop. I tell him not to bother. Usually he stops on the way home and picks up something little just to say he remembers anyway and I'm good with that.
Besides all that, it's the businesses and card people who are really behind all this. They are the ones reaping all the benefits and making you feel guilty if you don't go out and spend money on a certain day. We don't buy into that. What's more important is the other 364 days of the year and in fact, would mean more to see something nice on an unexpected day just because.......