I read a recent article written by Brad, “Men are too short sighted women are too complacent”, http://draginol.joeuser.com/article/335427/Men_are_too_short_sighted_women_are_too_complacent ,  where he opined his observation of short sighted men, as well as how complacent women are.  That is, unintelligent, uninteresting, and boring (same difference). 

Let us look at this from a different angle, and discuss for a moment what exactly does a man want from a woman, other than the usual sexual encounter that is?  We can pretend that the first thing the man will think of is… “I wonder how intelligent she is?” or we can be honest and know that he will be thinking…”Nice rack” or “Not bad looking, nice body…etc.” or something else about her looks.  Let’s face it people, men are men; they will continue to be the way they are! And why not, it is what keeps our world interesting is it not?

There are those men who want a woman to be the blond bombshell stereotype: shapely, lots of hair, looks good on his arm, does everything he says, in essence she might as well be a doll, and dare I say a sex toy?!

Some men want the type they can take home to mom:  still looks good on his arm, not too much make up, not more intelligent than him, wants babies and will stay home no matter what.  He will happily marry her because she will have no aspiration to outdo him! (now I’m being insulting to my gender! Forgive me ladies, trying to make a point!)

And of course, there are those men who want the ideal woman, she is a mixture of the bombshell (not necessarily blonde), and the stay at home type, and she will have an opinion, seek out new things, but she will no matter what, let him be the ruler of their world because he is king of his castle after all!  This is obviously not a nice way to think of any woman right?

But let us say that men think with their dicks no matter what; and women are only out to get what they can from a man because that is what they do!  Then, predicatively, they become boring and uninteresting because they now have what they want, and are no longer interested in themselves or their lives for that matter!  This gives the men the excuse to go outside their marriages in search of the next big perky tits and firm ass because wifey at home isn’t looking as good as she used to? (Have I insulted any men yet?)

Insults aside, then again, would that not be the predictable way to think about what a woman is and what a man is? 

Now let us briefly examine why exactly would a woman become complacent?

I make no excuses, yes; there are those amongst my gender who have perhaps given up on their lives.  Perhaps because they cannot muster the energy to do one more thing after all that they do for everyone else; whether that is at home, or work, or both!

There are also those in my gender who have let the daily happenings in their lives dictate their lack of interest in seeking…. anything.  Some of us have given up.  Some feel there is just no need to bother because they are just going around in circles anyway.

All that may be true, for some women, (even for some men!), but it is not a valid or fair prediction!  It is pretty easy to say that a woman has become complacent but I would say the same of some men as well! (And that is not trying to give “tit for tat”)

The women who do choose to get married (or involved and settled down) and whether they have children or not, of course their outlook will change!   They would be really stupid to be on that one-track pony because they are older, and wiser, their focus will be on whatever is going on in their lives!  They will talk about their children; they will talk about housework, exercising, and the food they like to eat, their habits, because it is what their focus is at that time.  But who is to say that they don’t read books, or are not interested in what is going on in the world around them?

Perhaps because they are too busy caring for the men in their lives?  After all, if it was not for the women in their lives, how could the CEO run his company?  Who would take care of the finite details that are so necessary to have a happy and successful marriage and family life?  Who is the glue that keeps the family unit going?  To whom would the children look for guidance if mommy didn’t know how to be a mommy?  Which she learned by being involved in the happenings of her daily life?   And this is a woman being complacent….how?  

I will attest that some women will become uninterested in themselves, yes, because sometimes, it is what being married, and especially, with children, does to a woman, because of her focus being only on the husband and the children.  (Half the time if the man were less selfish, it would not be so.)    It does take a woman being older, and wiser to their own needs that takes them out of being this way and leading this type of existence.  Because they realize that it is OK for them to have a life of their own! Oh yes, there are 40 and older women who do live very interesting lives.