Why do we always want the ones we can’t have?????
That is a very good question and I get asked it all the time…..or it is the answer I give all the time to my young male friends asking my opinion on why girls are so fucked up and why they just don’t want them or give them the time of day bla bla bla…..I get kinda sick of it but seeing as I’m a great friend I sit there and listen as much as I can and give advice where need be.,…
It is common knowledge that we always want what we can’t have!! But sometimes guys just don’t understand, and its like what’s there not to understand?
It’s simple! – We want something we have to work for or at least fight for, its like a trophy at the end showing us that we were the best of the best at that time!
This is how it works –
You have two guys, we will call them Adam and Seth.
Adam is the good looking playa and Seth is the nice sensitive “friend” type guy who is also good looking.
Then we have the female in this equation lets call her Melissa.
Now Melissa, notices both of them and starts to chat to them both (at different times of course) and gets along with both of them like a house on fire. She exchanges numbers with them and goes on her merry way.
Now this is when it begins…..
as soon as she gets home from the club Melissa is receiving messages from Seth telling her how much he enjoyed the night and its been one the best night in awhile and he hopes to see her around some time….now Melissa likes this to begin with because she did actually like him and thought he was a nice guy, and because she had only meet him for a few hours she thought eh why not no harm talking to him and getting to know him.
For the next couple of days while shes getting to know Seth and everything seems to be going great from Seth’s point of view, she keeps thinking about this Adam dude she met on the weekend and wonders why he hasn’t contacted her???? She’s like “we got on great, he seemed to like what he saw I wonder why I haven’t heard from him”….and while this is going on over and over in her head, she decides eh why not I may aswell just message him and see what happens can’t hurt right???
Well thast where Melissa is wrong because it is going to hurt (in the long run).
Now we have Seth in one hand adoring her, constantly wanting to please her and do anything she asked of him and Adam in the other hand just playing kool, keeping it real not over doing things, and seeing where it takes him. but on the same note keeping his eyes open for other little fillies that might fall into his web!
Now we all wonder why the hell wouldn’t you just choose Seth the guy that is obviously there for you, right in front of you, but yet we want Adam, why??? Because in our eyes he’s out of reach, and he doesn’t seem interested, so we keep at him until he finally is interested and we feel we have won (when really this was his game all along) …..but then when Adam has had his way with you and got what he wanted he will drop you like a sack of potatoes and move onto the next girl and the game will start all over again, at first we will be like yeah I knew I could do it, it was only a matter of time till I got him, but then it will kick in that he to was playing the game…and then we will have a cry and start to hate all males… but this whole time who has been there for you listened to you been your shoulder to cry on??? That’s right SETH, and why? Cos he was the one who genuially liked you and wanted to be with just you , and stuck by you till you realised what you had in him….
Sounds fucked up?? Well you’d be right it is…..and u asked why??? It all comes back to
WE WANT WHAT WE CAN”T HAVE
it’s the forbidden fruit some might say…it stems all the way back to there…..Eve wasn’t allowed the fruit but she took it anyway…….females were made this way!!!!! We want what we think is out of reach.
Why would we want someone that is right there, right in front of us, something we can have at the snap of a finger? Where is the fun in that…..we want to chase, we want to play, we want to win!!
There’s no accomplishment if we never worked for what we got……..
But I guess what I’m trying to say is….
If you are in this situation and you have to choose between Seth that is smothering you or Adam the “stud”, please choose Seth, because once you have played your game with Adam you will still end up with Seth 9 times out of ten neway.
But if you had of just gone with Seth to begin with you would have saved a lot of time, energy and tears by being with the one who actually had his heart in the right place.
This will never happen because females are not programmed that way, the amount of times I have played this game but never learnt from it is ridiculous.
I know females are fucked up I am one, and a very fucked up one at that!
But the difference with me is, at least I admit that these games go on!
I have no idea if this explained anything or helped anyone, I hope it did, but I suppose it was just me trying to get it off my chest and get it out there.
Thanks for reading
PEACE!
