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Why do their have to be groups in school?

June 21, 2004 2:38:46 PM from JoeUser ForumsJoeUser Forums
Have you ever went to school for the first time ever. When you walk in no matter what grade their is always someone who comes up and starts talking to you. At first you don't care your just happy that you have someone their that will talk to you. So you stay with them and meet all of their new friends. At first is doesn't matter untill you get into junior high. In junior high you start seperating into smaller groups. Your either popular or not. You know that everyone talks about you and you don't know which group to go to. You make the not popular people group. You have the most fun you could ever have. But you meet some popular people on the internet and start talking to them. Then they tell all their friends what you say. You feel stupid. Then you reach high school and it is a new ball game. Their is so many groups that you fit into. You stay with your true friends still and you just go on with your life.

I know if your not in the popular group have you ever wondered. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be popular? I know you love your friends but don't you wonder. What it would be like to have everyone to be you. You think you are the best thing ever. You know that it will never happen though.

Also why is it you always end up talking about the popular people. You know what i mean. You always say how much you hate them. Why? why do you hate them so much it isn't their fault. They are just like the not so popular group. They do the same things we do. It isn't their fault that they made those certain friends. Their should just be one group of people no matter what way they act. Or what group they are in. Everyone is suppose to be the same in this world but it never seems to happen that way. I know i probably make no sense to some people but i hope i make sense to at least one person cause that is all that I am looking for. Well that is all i have to say.

~Blondelife~
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Reply #1 June 21, 2004 2:54:49 PM
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It's part of the development of the human mind.  During adolescence we place a higher emphasis on social relationships.  At a certain age we all get past this stage in our development and slowly become a lot more independent.
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Reply #2 June 21, 2004 3:17:30 PM
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Nicely put psychx.

However, it turns out that there will always be people who are more popular than others. Be it because of looks, money or connections, there are people who naturally find themselves on the top of the social ladder. And the 'less blessed' of us will find ourselves surrounded by people who are similar to us in socio-economic status, interests and life stage.

I'd always thought that the bitchiness and social climbing that goes on at school ONLY happened at school. Sadly it continues out in the so-called adult world. The trick is to find what it is that makes you happy, be confident in your choices, and not give a f**k what others tell you about how you should be and what you should want out of life. In this way the other groups of people who will either want to make you a carbon copy of themselves, or deride you for your different way of life will fade into insignificance. And you can be happy.

High school sucks, man. I wouldn't EVER go back (you know, if some time travelling device was made available to me). Keep your chin up and be proud of who you are. You won't even remember half these people in 10 years time!
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Jamie Burnside
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Reply #3 June 21, 2004 3:56:16 PM
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Why do their have to be groups in school?


Their what?

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Reply #4 June 21, 2004 8:40:30 PM
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Their what?



Come on Jamie, give her a break...she means "there" and you know it....chill...

Anyway, not a bad article...most people form groups because of a need to belong....just think if you didn't have any friends that you could relate to...and as for hating popular people...most of the time they are assholes...too stuck up for their own good....but that's another story...lol

Well, I hope to see more from you...and welcome to the site,
~Zoo
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Reply #5 June 21, 2004 9:26:08 PM
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One question? Who says which kids are popular? Your hatred makes them popular. If you didn't talk about them they wouldn't be popular. That's why I don't talk about them if I can help it.

Capt. over and out!
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Reply #6 June 21, 2004 11:00:44 PM
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During the teenage years, children begin to define who they want to become as an adult. 


One step in this process is to become involved with a reference group.  Since these groups are already established, young people strive to find the group in which they're most accepted.  The results of this process is the development of a number of cliques in high schools. 


After high school, young adults go through a phase of self-discovery.  At this age, young people are also very interested in getting to know themselves and their circle of friends very deeply.  Thus you get: late night chats, road trips, and self-discovery in study-abroad programs, and other stuff like that.


***I wrote a pretty good paper about this two years ago.  I should find it and read it.


In the final analysis, being a teenager is a pain.  Find your comfort zone and stay there.  Also, pay attention to academics.  A good education is the most important thing that you can have in order to help ensure upward mobility in life.

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Reply #7 June 22, 2004 5:22:17 PM
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Yeah, I agree with Capt. We're the ones who make them popular. Excellent point Capt.

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Reply #8 June 22, 2004 7:58:28 PM
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Well, we're not really making them popular...just enhancing it by not letting anyone forget about them.....

Good point...should we take a vow of silence?...lol,
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Reply #9 June 22, 2004 8:11:10 PM
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Yes! *silences*

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Reply #10 June 22, 2004 8:40:06 PM
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Dude, zoo. I think we do because you could be popular if you just spent all your money on stupid looking clothes (eg. Abercrombie, American Eagle, Old Navy, and all of those wanna be cool clothing stores) and you acted like you were better than everyone and their mother.

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Reply #11 June 23, 2004 11:06:06 AM
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Hey now! I wear clothes from American Eagle and Old Navy and I'm not popular. And so do the other people that we hang with. We're all far from popular. So what you're saying doesn't make sense.

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Reply #12 June 23, 2004 4:23:03 PM
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and you acted like you were better than everyone and their mother.


That's what you missed there carebear. The clothes alone don't cut it.

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Reply #13 June 23, 2004 6:52:46 PM
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Carebear yeah you do wear those clothes but there is a difference. You aren't like them. You don't act like you are better than
anyone else and that is one thing i do like about you. So don't change that. Also yes Capt. you do need a lot more than
just the clothes.

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Reply #14 June 23, 2004 7:27:24 PM
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Ok, I see what you're saying. I guess i didn't see that part. my bad. lol. Yeah I'm glad I don't act that way. I'd kill myslef if i did.

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Reply #15 June 25, 2004 10:42:08 AM
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what are you talking about carebear does act like that! j/k i think that though some people act like that they aren't bad people they just are acting like they think they should act.


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Reply #16 June 25, 2004 10:56:32 AM
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amandahillbilly why do they think that they should act that way though. there is no reason for them to act that way. it is very rude.
but some of them can be nice.

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Reply #17 August 4, 2004 9:02:48 PM
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I moved into a new high school 5 weeks after the start of freshman year. I didn't know a single soul and man did it suck! But over time, I met people who wanted to be friends with me because of who I was, not because of who I was dating, what clothes I was wearing or what kind of car I drove. Those are the friends that I still have today.

Don't try and change who you are just so the popular kids will like you. I guarantee that in the long run you will be happier with yourself if you stick to who you know you are. After high school is over, it isn't going to matter if you were the class clown, the valedictorian or the prom queen. Titles fade, friends move away, but you have to look at yourself in the mirror everyday and live with what you see. So be happy with the unique, beautiful individual you are--hey, there never has been like you nor will there ever be one again!!
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