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Sorry to hear about your widget color and size issues. One of the great things about OB is that it can use seperate DX widgets . . but it also means that they are seperate entities. You can always right click on a DX object and choose properties and then hue shift to the color you want. That might help some. This also might be a good time to get into DX object building yourself. Resizing images isn't too hard (you can do quick and dirty resizing on the summary tab of an object).
Another thing you can try is, if you are using a Windowblind you like, set OB to use that skin. The menu panels seem to work best for me.
Finding the perfect skin is hard sometimes and sometimes it's easier to make your own. There is some documentation here for rolling yoru own:
https://www.stardock.com/products/objectbar/docs/
