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I'm one of only 6 white people in my college class. Most of the black girls are nice people; one in particular is a sweetheart. She's a single mom who's realized the mistakes she made earlier in her life and is trying desperately to correct them and better not only herself, but her situation too. She got a visit from the 'criminal background check fee fairy' the other day - she was saying something about how the fee was going to have to come out of her gas money and I guess the fairy heard it, 'cause when she came back from lunch there were 3 five dollar bills under her textbook. Anyhoo, I'm getting off-track here; I'm supposed to be telling you about something else.

There are 2 girls in particular who not only meet but EXCEED the 'nigger' stereotype that I have in my head. (Oooh, I said the 'N' word!!!!!!!!!! Aren't I dangerous?!) I've been trying so hard not to judge people, to not make them fit into the little preconceived boxes I've created for them, but when it comes to these two....well, I just can't find ANY endearing qualities about them whatsoever. They're ghetto-nasty, lazy, common-as-muck little tarts who think that the world owes them something because of the color of their skin and who are unable to think for themselves.

Case in point: we had a test yesterday. Our tutor literally gave us the answers to the test on Monday afternoon - she read out the questions and let us holler out the answers, guiding us if we were wrong. We were, in other words, spoon fed and everybody should have gotten at least 90%. At LEAST.

These two girls I'm talking about didn't do so well, though. After the test was done and the tutor had gone upstairs to run our answer sheets through the scan-tron, we all started talking about how we thought we'd done.

"I dunno wut tha mothafuckin' bitch wuz talkin' 'bout, but we neva learnt nothin' 'bout weights and traction an' shit, so she a motharfuckin' liar!" Said ghetto girl #1

"Uh-huuh. I she neva gave us no damn answers 'bout trac-tin' or whateva tha fuck it wuz, so she can't say she give us all tha mothafuckin' answers!" retorted ghetto girl #2.

I couldn't stay silent. I just couldn't.

"Actually, the answer was right there. We're not supposed to mess with the traction on an orthopedic patient, so the answer was 'D'. It was all right there."

"Then why she didn't tell us that?! I didn't see no D - I know FO SHO that she neva tol' us nuthin' 'bout no mothafuckin weights or no trac-shun, so I KNOW tha' ques-shun shouldn't have been on tha muthafuckin' tess!"

My friend Debbie told me later that I turned around to face here with a 'what the fuck' look on my face:

"My gawd, Karen! I about choked trying not to laugh, the look on your face was priceless!"

I just don't understand what more these girls want! Had they actually taken the time to READ the questions, they would have seen that the answer was, in fact, there right in front of them. But, nooooo, that would have been to fucking hard for their poor little underprivileged minds. They don't WANT to think...I'm not even sure they know HOW to think. They want the asnwers, the solutions, put on a platter before them. They don't want to have to work in any way or shape or form, they want it all done for them.

Fuck, I hate that mind-set. It infuriates me. I mean, what more do they want?

I'm almost (please note that I said 'almost') ashamed of myself for using that word - for THINKING that word, even - but for crying out loud, if they're going to act like the stereotype then I'm gonna call a spade a spade and I'm going to use the stereotypical phrase to describe them. This isn't the first time this has happened, see. This isn't the first time they've behaved this way; it happens to some degree every time I see them. Last week, one of them was talking about her boyfriend being incarcerated - not her baby-daddy, but her boyfriend (there's a difference, apparently). The week before, the other one was talking about how she got into it with another girl in her housing area (paid for by Section 8, of course) and she invited said girl to 'take it to tha mothafuckin' STREET' and proceed to try and beat the shit out of her. Remember how I said that some girls were late the very FIRST day, and just sauntered into the classroom without even so much as a 'sorry'? Yeah, you got it. They showed their true color (hahahahahah!!!!!!!) before the entire class before anyone even knew their name.

Why would anyone want to behave that way? I just don't get it.

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Dharma,

I'm guessing you are seeing some of the same people I'm seeing in going to a community college. The truth is, stereotypes are there because there are some people in the group who fit the stereotype.

Fortunately for people like you and me, at least, this means getting through coursework is easier because instructors S-L-O-W D-O-W-N for those students!

Off-topic: it's refreshing to see how excited you are about the schoolwork. You seem much less stressed in your writing (and this despite the fact your daughter's found boys...lol!)

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I once corrected my Accounting 2 teacher when she gave us the wrong answer in the review, and instead of explaining it to the whole class, she decided to just take both answers as correct on the test... shameful.

There's a difference between double declining balance and straight line depreciation. Knowing that is important to calculating it. Being able to figure out someone's talking about straight line depreciation even though percentages are mentioned in the question is not that hard.

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I'm going to wade in and leave a response here very carefully, or at least try to.

First, let me say that the idea of leaving these comments that I'm writing is one that I really started not to make. The use of a term that I'd really rather not ever see or hear used, one that continues to be filled with hatred and disdain for a class of people, is something that I'd rather not support and don't really want to be associating with.

With that said though, I can see the frustration clearly in the events described in the original article. The article is filled with adult content, and carries the Adult Content warning, so anyone reading it should known in advance what to expect from it.

I will say the second paragraph in the original article is, well, pretty toxic. Very, very harsh words there. Words I would like to think didn't apply as a proper description for anyone.

Sadly though, they are words that probably do apply to the individuals that are the subject of the article, and even worse, to other individuals in our society that have learned the wrong lessons from those that became their teachers. Note I'm not talking about teachers as in school teachers. I'm talking about the people that passed along the bad habits, bad manners, bad language, bad behavior and everything else that went into making these individuals the bad excuses for civilized human beings that they now are. Other bothers (or should I be writing 'bruthas'?) and sisters ('sistas?'), mothers, fathers, relatives, friends, neighbors, etc., that set bad examples which have been followed only too well by these two and others like them.

If these individuals had paid attention to real teachers I suspect they'd not fit into the stereotype that is written about in the original article and is mentioned by Gideon in his reply above. Real teachers would hopefully be better at setting a positive example to be followed. But real teachers are too often ignored as to listen to them requires some effort. It requires a little work on the part of the student.

The type of work that people like Dharma have written about above just won't do. Instead they offer the perfect example of why we get the likes of Rev. Al, Jesse J, and others. They offer up the perfect example of why they vote for people that will give hand-outs rather than hand-ups. They offer up the perfect example of why people like me get so frustrated and mad at being told that we may need to give more in taxes to take care of those less fortunate.

As I spoke up in one of Draginol's recent articles: Whose responsibility is it to pay for your children? this stuff is the stuff that makes me hate the idea of society getting the bills to take care of everyone. If the parents don't care about the children, why should I? If they didn't really want the children, why did they have them (oh, wait, that could be because they wanted handouts from Uncle Sam, things like AFDC and the like).

I grew up with some of the same types of people described in that original article. People that made me much more likely to consider using that N word to describe them than I would like. People that fit the stereotype and did go out and get knocked-up at early ages just so they could collect from the government coffers. People that had more kids just so they could get bigger checks. People that wouldn't work a day in their life if they could come up with any other possible way of getting free money from somewhere.

It's sad to still see people like this in our society, bringing it down and (as Gideon noted) making the rest of us slow down so they get a chance to keep up. Draining on productivity, and ruining the learning opportunities for others.

I guess that's all I can say for now, but I'm sure some of the people that were speaking up for communistic and socialistic principles in Draginol's article are sitting and steaming as they read this article. Hopefully they are steaming because they understand just how bad individuals like those described in the original article are for furthering the cause of having that societal safety net. Perhaps the net needs more holes in it to let some of the people that don't want to work just a little and try a bit fall through and get jettisoned out with the rest of the waste products.

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And these people are going to perform basic daily cares with patients? That scares me.

Whenever my dad would be in the hospital or even at home under hospice care, and when my mom's been in the hospital for a joint replacement, I try to do as much for them as I can. I mean...I don't feel comfortable washing privates and stuff, but the stuff that I feel comfortable with, I take care of. I just don't trust people...

You're going to be *SO* good at this, K. I'd trust you with someone I love. You're going to treat your patients like they're your family, and with DIGNITY.

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Well, hopefully they fail. I sure as hell wouldn't want someone like that looking after my ass...

~Zoo

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