Tova:
I agree. I nursed both my boys. Hunter nursed a year and then decided he was done. He wanted a cup, and has drank from one ever since...never did bottles or pacifiers either.
My second I nursed until 18 months, and then made him stop. He woulda nursed till college if I let him. heh. But I was tired of it.
I didn't nurse Xavier, and I really regret it. I tried, but I didn't have access to the support that could have helped me succeed. I even bought a pump, but I was so engorged that Xavier (who had already been given bottles at the hospital, so was used to the ease of bottlefeeding) couldn't latch on, and of course expressing milk from flattened overly-engorged nipples is very difficult.
Orian nursed for a year and a half, and he would have gone longer but I felt like I was done. Now that I understand the benefits of extended nursing, I will let Izzy go longer if she wants.
I'll bet you loved going straight to the cup and skipping bottles and pacifiers!
Orian had bottles while I was at work or school, but Izzy has only had bottles twice in her 4 months. Both times because mommy needed a drink, hahaha.
Nursing wasn't euphoric for me, or any other really "wow" kinda thing. I did it because it was best for my children and it is my job to do the best I can for them. I figured, why bother having them if I wasn't even willing to help them get the very best start in life?
I think the fact that people misunderstand the differences between formula and breast milk and see them as being "close" or "equal" really affects breastfeeding rates because most moms really do want to do what is best for their children, and if they knew how wide the gap is between formula and breast milk, they'd give nursing a go.
It's definitely not enjoyable for every mom, although it does have great benefits for the nursing mom as well (I actually like nursing).
Shovel:
My wife wanted to breastfeed but for some reason or another it didn't work out for her and it's always been a regret of hers.
I feel the same way about my oldest. I actually believe that most women *can* breastfeed, but it takes a whole lot of support and technical help for some women, and that help isn't always readily available.
With Xavier, they sent a MAN!! to teach me how to breastfeed in the hospital. He wasn't allowed to touch me, and he obviously didn't have any experience breastfeeding.
Heh, I remember all those runs to Wallyworld for that Similac whateverac stuff and what a pain and expense it was!
No kidding! There's another breastfeeding saying..."I'm too lazy to bottlefeed!" Haha. And there's a lot of truth to that.
I think WIC has actually been detrimental to this country's breastfeeding rates because they've made formula free and accessible to women who would otherwise need to breastfeed.
And I think breastfeeding is the way to go for deeper, more...spiritual reasons (for lack of better words) that we might not ever understand either. But then that's just my man's perspective so what do I know? lol. Not much.
Heh. I think you know lots about lots, LOL.
I agree, btw. I think there is a deeper reason to breastfeed. It's just such a natural, HUMAN thing to do.
Thanks, everyone. I'll reply more in a bit.

PS - Don't you guys love my breastfeeding smiley? hahahahah.